In regards to your number 2 item. I had a similar problem and through various posts was able to piece together the answer. I do not know if you were able to solve it or not but here is what I have found.
Navigate to (~/Sitefinity/Admin/ControlTemplates/Libraries/LibraryListView.ascx)
At the very top of the page there is a div with class="ViewOptions"
Inside that there is a RadTabStrip. You can try to change the selectedindex of the tabstrip from 0 to 1 but this DID NOT work for me.
WHAT DID WORK was changing the order of the <Telerick:RadTab ...> items. I Simply moved the "listView" to the top of the list.
This will make sure that the listView is selected on the page.
On the same page you neex to do the same thing inside the <RadMultiPage> section...
Cut the RadPageView with the ID of "listView" and paste it ABOVE the RadPageView with an ID of "boxesView"
Again I don't know why this works but it does.
at this code to inside the <MasterTableView> tags of the RadPageView with the ID of "listView"
This should do the trick for you.
Hope it helps you and anyone else looking for this solution.