OK...SO AFter working through all the things I tried (this is what worked).
REALLY THE DOCUMENTATION FOR UPGRADING SITEFINITY REALLY NEEDS TO IMPROVE AND MAYBE SHOW A COUPLE PRINT SCREENS. and to note...this is a "WORK AROUND" and probably not the way I shold do it.
SO SINCE I COULD NOT RUN THE BROWSER AS ADMINISTRATOR TO UPGRADE THE SITEFINITY...I DECIDED TO DO THE NEXT BEST THING...
ASSINGN THE "EVERYONE" GROUP TO THE "SITEFINITY WEBSITE FOLDER"...and give the group "FULL CONTROLE" This way I would be able upgrade the website on the server.
ONCE I DID THIS....I WAS ABLE TO SELECT THE DATABASE and "SITEFINITY" upgraded the web.config file like it wanted. WHY DOES IT DO THIS??? NO CLUE..
BUT ANYWAYS...it did everything it needed to do and I TESTED AND LOGGED IN AND THE PROBLEM WAS FIXED....THE WEBSITE UPGRADE TO THE LATEST PATCH.
AFTER I ENSURED EVERYTHING WAS GOOD.....I TOOK THE EVERYONE GROUP AWAY FROM THE SECURITY GROUP.
FOR GOOD MEASURE....I RESTARTED ALL IIS SERVICES AFTER EACH OF THE ABOVE STEPS
DOUG LUBEY OF LOUISIANA
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