It is true that one should follow the site version so that Lightning could connect.
We've introduced the 0.9.9.2 version of the server module to provide an option to update the module on the site directly from NuGet without the need to manually do a binding redirect in the web.config of your Sitefinity instance.
As far as your question is concerned, we have been widely discussing this matter and most probably we will be part of Sitefinity by default in the near future. We expect to start working on this after the official release of Lightning.
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